Sometimes, the closest you can be with someone are the moments that you spend with your partner while keeping your clothes on.
Sure, sex is one of the most important parts of a relationship, but sometimes, the deepest intimacy occurs on many occasions which have absolutely nothing to do with sex.
When you finally find someone who makes you feel the way that you’d never feel with anyone else, the most simple gestures could create the epitome of euphoria. These moments are not over the top incredible but are just the little things that you share with your significant other and give you immense happiness. Some of such things are-
Travelling could be fun, travelling could be adventurous, travelling could be an escape from the routine life of yours. Travelling could be many things, but travelling with the right person could be the most intimate experience ever. Hand in hand with your best friend, jumping from a cliff into the waters, or breathing in the landscape with someone who loves you- what love could get more intimate?
The first time I ever kissed someone, I felt the whole ocean was inside of me, gulping me down every time it touches my shores, leaving me exhilarated, gasping. In that moment, I somehow knew, that this is the most intimate moment of my life, no matter what the universal definition of ‘getting intimate’ is. There is something sweet in wanting more, with every breath you fill in each other’s mouth, but not getting it, there is something so sweet in leaving yourself unsatisfied.
Of course, there is deep intimacy in getting out of your clothes and presenting your whole body to your partner, but what I believe is even deeper of an ecstasy is- to get your soul out and present it to the one you love. Talk- about the way coffee makes you feel sick, Talk- about how you hate flying, Talk- about the colour purple, Talk- of the friends you once had or will have, Talk- of what you think about the stardust, talk- about everything, it takes great courage to turn yourself inside out- to trust someone that much.
4 Sleep together-
No, don’t take it the other way, by sleep together, I mean, really sleep together.
Beautiful, isn’t it? To wither in desire, while lying side by side, hand in hand, feet slightly touching each other, breathing in the same rhythm, Beautiful, isn’t it? To set your soul on fire, or to slip into the intimacy of deep water in your slumber, for when you stop struggling, even drowning could be the sweetest experience.
6 Share inside jokes-
Be inappropriate, be offensive, be original, be weird. Share as many inside jokes as you can- This is the kind of relationship people seek all their lives. Be your partner’s best friend. Create such kind of trust into the relationship, that no amount of trouble could stand in your way while you tumble down the road laughing at them. Closeness is not measured by the number of years anyway.
5 Make them your muse, and be theirs-
Now that you’ve found someone who is top equal of your every love poem, it’s time to write them down on paper, or to paint them out on canvas, or to invite them in your song, or to let them enter as a character in your book. Art is there for a reason. Art is there to make you feel something, and that something could be the most intimate thing ever. Make love with your eyes, and let every curve of their body drip out of your paint brush. Count every scar, every freckle, every colour in their eyes, and let it flow out of your pen. Make them your muse, and be theirs, there’s nothing else that could make you feel more special.
What else could leave you more gratified than living with someone, who makes life worth living? Waking up next to the person who is the reason you want to wake up in the morning. Live with someone, who lets you. Live with someone, who compels you to live. Watch them grow, watch them age, watch them stretch, watch them disappear, as one day, you too will have to.
Intimacy could be found in life itself if you don’t limit it merely to sex. Find the deeper ecstasy of life, be vulnerable, be raw, be weak, curl yourself into a question mark, seek all the answers.
And when you find that kind of closeness, don’t even try to recover.